Peter’s Love Life [Reading]

A reading from a person who tried out the app named Peter.

It had been a few months since I last saw my friend Peter. When I told him about the app he was curious, so I had him give it a test run before downloading it onto his phone.

Peter wanted to take a look into his love life, but didn’t enter a question; he wanted to keep it to himself.

READING

Question: (Contemplated)
Category: Love and Relationships
Method: Three Coins

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First Hexagram: 46 – Sheng – Ascending
Changing Lines: #5

Be confident that you have a strong relationship with your lover. Continually nourish it with great patience and it will grow even stronger.

During our conversation, Peter hadn’t mentioned if he was seeing anyone. For all I knew he was still single. Nevertheless, according to his first hexagram, he might be or there is someone he is interested in. Assuming that he’s still single, the advice of the oracle is that he needs to be patient with the other person. As they continue to talk and spend time with each other, their bond will grow stronger. But, if Peter gets desperate and pushes the idea of a “relationship”, the other person might sense the desperation or the urgency and it would be in Peter’s disfavor. In essence, the other person would be “turned off”.

You are successful, but there are a few goals that you need to achieve. Focus on the remaining goals one at a time.

With the addition of changing line number five, it further advises that the idea of having a relationship at this time should not be his goal. Peter is rather “established”. Meaning to say that he has a good career, friends, family and hobbies that he enjoys; other areas of his life are going rather well. The “other goals” that were mentioned could be centered around himself. Maybe there is another hobby or interest that he would like to take up? Maybe he wants to start a new business venture? Sometimes, when you take your mind off of an goal or an idea that you’ve thought about for a long time, it manifests while you stop thinking about it.

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Result Hexagram: 48 – Jing – Welling

You need to focus on your own need before you can address those of your lover or of the relationship.

It looks like for the next few weeks, he should focus on himself. Is the oracle saying the he’s not “ready”? I would say, “yes”. Maybe he needs to assess his reasons for having a relationship.

One common idea for having a relationship is the idea to complete one’s life. I’ve often heard that people are “looking for their other half” or “someone to complete them”. It comes from Plato’s Symposium.People were of both sexes and had four arms and four legs, etc. They conspired to climb to heaven, so Zeus split man to weaken him and double the offerings they received, instead of destroying man. Good call: double or nothing.

That idea has put the believer in constant search of something outside them and fills them up with expectations, sometimes unmet and unmanaged. And, sadly what often happens is that they find that the “other half” no longer “completes” them, so they seek another or try to change the other person. There are a whole slew of bad “things” that can result as well.

A better approach is to believe you are whole to begin with and search for another whole. It might not be easy to think or believe, especially since the media prefers to market the “I’m not whole” idea, but it’s possible. If you can feel good about yourself and enjoy yourself BY YOURSELF, then you’re thinking more towards a person who feels 100% and whole. I’d rather be 100% looking for another 100% to create 200%, than 50% trying to find another 50% to create 100%.